Dismissing Judgmental Opinions of Ourselves

The world is judgmental. It would be great if people didn’t judge others on seemingly every little thing. It would even be better if everyone liked everyone else, but sadly this in not the case.


You may have heard some opinions about yourself from others, and have tried to figure out how you can change those opinions. The issue here is, those opinions are not actually any of your business. How someone else feels about you is their issue. You only need to concern yourself with how you feel about you.


Trying to change every judgement others have of you will imprison you. Concentrate on what you think about yourself, you can improve things about yourself that YOU want to improve and do not concern yourself with others opinions of you. Control what you can control.


Learn more about our Dialectical Behavior Therapy at Healthy Futures. Healthy Futures has a full team of professional, experienced and qualified counselors, ready to help you at any time. Reach out to us at (480) 451-8500.



Dr. Kim DiRé:  Hi, my name is Dr. Kim DiRé. I’m going to talk to you about when others judge us.


A lot of times in DBT, dialectical behavioral therapy, we talk about having a nonjudgmental stance, just notice, don’t judge. What happens when others judge us, and they’re not practicing that skill? What do we do?


Have you ever heard that an opinion of another about us is none of our business? That’s the truth. It isn’t any of our business.



How somebody feels about us or thinks about us is their opinion. What matters most is how we feel about ourselves and, if we need to improve something about ourselves, then we have the opportunity to do that.


When we start believing what others make up about us in their opinions, which isn’t fact, then we become imprisoned by pleasing that person, trying to get them to like us, or help them see us in a different way. Then, we have to do that.


Guess what? What if that other person over here has a different judgment about us, and now we have to move over to that side and help that judgment along? It’s none of our business.


We need to stick to what we know about ourselves, improve what we need about ourselves and, if someone has a judgment about us, we need to stay out of that business. It’s none of ours, and we can’t control it, anyway. Thank you.

Progressive Relaxation Technique

Relaxing does not always come easy to everyone. Dr. Kim DiRé shares a technique called progressive relaxation that she uses to help create a state of relaxation and equilibrium for your nervous system.


This technique is excellent right before you go to bed, but can be used at any time you need a break.


Find a nice comfortable place where you can relax, replenish and restore your mind and body.


If you are feeling like you need to speak to someone, Healthy Futures has a full team of professional, experienced and qualified counselors, ready to help you at any time. Reach out to us at (480) 451-8500.




Dr. Kim DiRé:  Hi, my name is Dr. Kim DiRé, and I’m going to teach you a technique today to relax. It’s called progressive relaxation. Maybe, some of you have done it before, and everyone has a couple of different techniques to do it with, but I’m going to give you mine.


We’re going to use our imagination to do it. And it might be right before you’re going to bed, but it’s to create a state of relaxation, a state of equilibrium for your nervous system to calm.


Some people like to do this technique right before they go to bed, but any time will work. If you can get yourself into a nice, comfortable, relaxed position, that would be great, and uncross everything.


And some people like to self‑focus their eyes or close them as you’re listening to this, so go ahead and do that.


If you could just imagine that a beam of light is shining down, if you need to have an imagination that opens the ceiling, and that beam of light comes down from the moon or the sun, that’s fine, but just like a flash light.


It shines on your toes, warming them, really getting them comfortable, shining down, illuminating through them, around them. And as they warm, you can wiggle them if you want, they become more and more relaxed. In fact, with each warm state that your body has, you become more and more relaxed.


Now, the beam of light moves up through the balls of your feet and illuminates the balls of your feet, warming them, relaxing them, in, through, and around, creating restoration. Now, up through the tops of your feet, the arches, and the heels. So all of your foot, and your feet, are illuminated, warm, and relaxed.


The beam then moves up through your ankles. Any type of moving part in your body gets lots of wear and tear during the day. This is the place for them to relax and let down, let go, so as that beam of light shines on your ankles, they relax, the muscles, the bones, the tendons.


Every cell does, and then moving up, to your lower limbs, your legs, the calves, all the way up to below the knee, so everything from below the knee is warm and restoring, relaxed, in a state of calm.


Now, up through your knees, the beam of light warms those knees, and for maybe the first time during the day, they don’t have to bend, and move, or do anything. They can just be illuminating in this nice beam of light.


Using imagination, that the beam moves up through your thighs, warming them, relaxing all the ligaments, the muscles, just allowing those legs, all the way from the hips down, to be relaxed, not have to do anything, restoring, allowing calm to happen for them. Moving up into the hips, the beam of light then illuminates the hips.


The pelvis just completely lets down, lets go, and you can feel that deep sense of warmth and relaxation as you allow the body, from the hips down, to just let go into the bedding, or the recliner beneath you, or sofa, wherever you are, and then through the mid torso, letting that vertebrae let go.


It manages so much for you, and now it doesn’t have to do anything except accept the beam of light that is warming it, in, around, and through.


Every muscle, every cell, pore, and ligament is warmed by this nice illuminating beam, and then up through the ribcage, lightening and illuminating all those organs.


They’re still going to work for you. It’s just that they get a chance now to do it at a slower pace, to allow them to work and rest at the same time. You can feel that, as the cavity of your chest is now illuminated by that warm light.


Just imagine then that that beam splits in two and illuminates on each shoulder, allowing them to let down and let go so you don’t have to manage so much anymore.


The beam moves down the upper arm, down into the elbow, which gets lots of work during the day, but now it doesn’t have to. It’s a chance to restore and come back into equilibrium.


Along now, the beam moves to the lower arms, into the wrists, down each finger and thumb as it lights, relaxes, restores, regenerates. With each body part, it becomes more and more relaxed.


The beam moves back up into the shoulders, comes back down to the neck, and raises up and illuminates the area around your throat, warms it and relaxes it, expanding it, allowing it to become open, more fluid.


Then, to the lower jaw, the upper jaw, and up through the sinus cavities, the middle ear, and up through the eye orbits.


Up through the brain, to the top of the head, there’s a beam of light shining down all around you. If you can just bask in that beam of light, more and more relaxed, allowing the body to create an equal state of equilibrium that becomes calm, enjoyable, restorative, and you can replenish your energy by doing this relaxed state.


If you’re going to sleep, you can do that now, but just settle in this place for a while, of basking in this beam of nice white light, as your body regenerates and restores.



Using Mindfulness to Change Thinking Errors

Did you know your brain never stops thinking? It is true, however most people do not pay attention to their thoughts on a regular basis. With mindfulness, though, we learn to pay attention to our thoughts and our emotions as well as the way we interpret things.


Oftentimes people will have thinking errors – which is making up something that has happened in our life. Something happened previously and it has caused us to change the way we interpret events.


Some of the common thinking areas include – black or white thinking, over-generalization, “Should” statements and disqualifying the positive.


At Healthy Futures we work on Mindfulness and see if there are any common thinking errors that are triggering strong, or possibly inappropriate, emotions. We work toward emotion regulation where you are interpreting facts of the event so that we don’t overreact to the situation and have a stable appropriate response.


When we are more mindful with our thoughts, we are in control of our emotional response and the choices we make.


Healthy Futures offers Dialectical Behavior Therapy life classes to help with mindfulness and other Skills for Life. Contact us today to learn more about our DBT offerings.



Sheri Robenstine:  Hi, I’m Sheri. I’m one of the DBT teachers here at Healthy Futures, and today I’m going to be talking about mindfulness of thought.


I don’t know if you knew this, but your brain is literally designed to think all the time. It never stops thinking, but rarely do we pay attention to our thoughts on a regular basis. When we learn mindfulness, we actually pay attention to our thoughts, because a lot of the time our emotions come from our thoughts, and the way that we interpret things.


Sometimes, we have what’s called thinking errors, meaning that we have something that’s happened in our life. We think about it, meaning we make up something about it. We have a previous thing that has happened, so that’s caused us to interpret this current thing as the same as the last thing.


We call those thinking errors, because sometimes we actually don’t look at the event with facts. We look at the event or what’s happening with our interpretations, which can then actually cause an emotion that might not be appropriate, given the current thing that’s happening.


We like to go over and be mindful of those thoughts to see if we have any common thinking errors that might be causing some emotions that might be a little bit too extreme or, maybe, inappropriate for the current situation.


The cool thing that we can do when we notice where our thinking errors are is we actually get to be mindful of our actual events and interpret those using facts, or interpret those events in what we call a wise mind way so that we don’t overreact to situations, or we don’t have chaotic responses to situations. We actually have what we call emotion regulation.


What we’re going for with emotion regulation is to be more stable in our emotional responses. Not to completely dull our emotional responses, but to actually have emotions that are appropriate, given whatever situation’s in front of us.


The more mindful we are with our thought patterns, the more that we can be in control of our emotional responses, and the more choices that we get to make with our lives.


When we are mindful of our thoughts, and we notice that we have thinking errors, we can notice them as that, and actually change our thought patterns, which actually changes our emotional responses. It can be awesome if you get good at noticing your thinking errors.


At the end of the video, we’re going to post some of the most common thinking errors so you can look at that sheet and say, “Yeah, I actually do that a lot,” and work on changing your own thinking errors.


Thank you so much for watching today. Enjoy the rest of your day.

Curiosity is the Key to Learning About Life Around You

Curiosity is truly a great thing. It is the perfect antidote to boredom. Look around you and there are things you can be curious about. If you see something that you want to know more about – great! Grab your computer or phone and research it.


Ask as skill, curiosity is a great way to learn from the people around you. Ask questions, look for different perspectives, your opinion – while valid – is not the only one.


A little curiosity can help you learn to understand others better and help you become a better communicator. There are so many benefits to curiosity! Want to learn more?


For more tips and other ways to help yourself visit the Healthy Futures website or YouTube channel.



Dr. Kim DiRé:  Hello, my name is Dr. Kim DiRé. Today, I want to talk to you about curiosity. I wanted to talk to you about curiosity and using it as a skill and developing it. Curiosity’s a great thing, and when I hear people say, “Oh, I’m bored.” I think, “I have the perfect solution: curiosity.”


As a skill, curiosity can do so many things. One of the curiosity killers is assuming that you know something. Be curious. Be interested. You can even be curious about being bored. The thing that helps nowadays is we have these search engines, and you can go and research stuff.


Sometimes, I marvel at something, and then, I can go immediately and research something. Another thing to be curious about is different perspectives in the world. Go ahead and ask people what do they think about something, so you can get an idea about how others think. Ask them how they feel, also. Be curious about that.


Don’t assume that your opinion is the only one. Be curious about others and how they see the world. I think you’ll learn how to communicate with people a little bit better. Ask them questions. Use curiosity as a way to entertain yourself through the world, connect with others.


I think you’ll find that the more curious you are, the more you develop that skill, the more enriched your life will be, so try it. I think you’ll like it. Thank you.

Everything Is Going to Be All Right


Life has its fair share of ups and downs. If you are struggling with depression, please hear this – it’s going to be OK! You matter and are worthy. It is OK to reach out and ask for help because no one – not one single person – has it all figured out. Everyone struggles from time to time.


One of the things that is so wonderful about you, is that you are the only you! Be proud of you who you are. If you are struggling, reach out and ask for help. There is zero shame in that. Everyone needs a little help some time. Reach out to a family member, friend or one of us at Healthy Futures. Just reach out because you matter!


Healthy Futures as a full team of professional, experienced and qualified counselors, ready to help you at any time. Reach out to us at (480) 451-8500.



Woman 1:  Here are three magical words that can lead to great things. Can we talk?


Woman 2:  Can we talk?


Woman 3:  Can we talk?


Woman 1:  Life can be difficult and sometimes even sad, but life is also wondrous and amazing.


Man:  Breathe, you’ll be OK.


Woman 2:  Breathe, you’ll be OK.


Woman 3:  Breathe, you’ll be OK.


Man:  Don’t worry. Almost no one has everything figured out. It’s OK to make mistakes. We all do.


Woman 1:  Depression is serious. Don’t let it fool you. You are worthy. You are more than worthy, more so than you can even imagine.


Woman 3:  If you are struggling right now, please hear this. Things get better.


Man:  Things get better.


Woman 1:  Things get better.


Woman 3:  There is no shame in asking for help. We all need help in this life.


Man:  We all need help in this life.


Woman 2:  It’s OK to ask for help.


Woman 3:  It’s OK to ask for help.


Woman 1:  It’s OK to ask for help.


Woman 2:  Really, it’s OK to ask for help.


Man:  We all feel scared at times.


Woman 1:  We all feel confused at times.


Woman 2:  Be proud of the person you are. There is no one exactly like you.


Man:  You are worthy.


Woman 3:  You are worthy.


Woman 2:  You are worthy.


Woman 1:  You are amazing.


Woman 3:  You are amazing.


Woman 2:  You are amazing.


Woman 1:  You are loved.


Woman 2:  You are loved.


Man:  You are loved.


Woman 2:  Embrace it, because it’s true.


Man:  Embrace it, because it’s true.


Woman 1:  Because it’s true.

Understanding The Importance Of Self-Compassion & Gratitude


We are taught as a child that life is not always fair, that things will not always go our way. However, as we grow into adulthood, it is easy to turn unfair situations into a time of self-pity, or even depression. Thankfully, there is an easy concept to avoid going down this path. Self-Compassion.


We often think of having compassion and gratitude for others but quickly forget the importance of having those same feelings for ourselves. In times of self-pity, it is important to stay positive and assess the situation. Compassion and gratitude are strong tools that can alter our mindset from negative feelings of unhappiness and failure to positive feelings of growth and opportunity.


So the next time something goes wrong, take a step back. Find it in yourself to have compassion for your own life as well as gratitude that something better will come from this. These simple acts will allow you to live better each day.


For more information on avoiding or coping with depression or more tips on self-compassion and gratitude, contact the Healthy Futures team today.



Dr. Kim DiRé:  Hello, my name is Dr. Kim DiRé. Today, I’m going to talk to you about self‑pity. I think we all do it. It’s a human thing. At the same time, what do you do when you have it? One of the things that we know about self‑pity is it really leads to a lot of depression and it really doesn’t help us.


A lot of times, life can be really, really unfair. If we start following that path and we start thinking about how unfair it is and we start feeling sorry for ourselves, we really disconnect and isolate ourselves from other people. It doesn’t help because then we remove ourselves from things or the experiences that can move us out of self‑pity.


Something that can help is compassion for ourselves. If something bad happens or it’s unfair, if we could just empathize with ourselves and really have compassion and be gentle on ourselves, it moves us out of self‑pity into something that we can connect with others with, including ourselves.


It can lift depression, as well as another tool by being grateful for what you do have. A lot of times in unfair or adverse situations, it’s actually the friction that moves us to something of growth or something that’s better.


If you can move self‑pity by using two tools, compassion for yourself in something that’s gone wrong and then also gratitude where the friction of something that’s adverse can actually lead to something better.


Try that instead of self‑pity and let’s see how you do. Live that a little bit more in your life and I think you’ll feel that life feels a little better.

Overcoming Shame by Taking Steps to Conquer It


What is your first memory have shame? Perhaps it is from childhood after being placed in your first time-out. Or maybe you remember it more clearly in your teenage years. Whatever it may be, shame is a feeling we all struggle with and it is essential that we learn about overcoming shame and the steps to take to recover from it.


Attempting to achieve perfection is often the major setup for failure and ultimately shame. But the truth is, nothing and nobody is perfect. Recovering from shame means breaking the cycle of perfectionism. As humans, we have to stop people pleasing and learn to become more vulnerable. Vulnerable in becoming authentic. Vulnerable in having the courage to be imperfect. When we can do this, we will have a greater sense of accepting ourselves and believing that we’re enough.


Overcoming shame is an important part of any recovery and the team at Healthy Futures is dedicated to helping you. Take the first step and contact us today.



Jeanne Phillips:  Hi. My name is Jeanne Phillips. I work at Healthy Futures, and I want to talk to you about shame. We all struggle with shame whether we want to admit it or not. It’s an intricate piece in terms of recovery, and it’s just not talked about enough.


What is shame? It’s a birthplace of perfectionism, it’s sickness of the soul, and it’s a horrible feeling that we’re flawed and unworthy. I hear that over and over and over from my patients, “I don’t feel worthy, I don’t feel worthy, I don’t feel worthy.”


I ask the question, “When will you feel worthy?” Or, “What do you feel shame about?” Their answer is, typically, “I don’t know when I’m perfect.”


General George Patton said that death kills us one time. Fear and shame kills us over and over and over and over. Let me differentiate between shame and guilt. Shame says, “I’m bad.” Guilt says, “I did a bad thing.”


For example, Todd kicks a dog and Mom says, “Bad boy. You’re a bad boy for kicking Fido,” which is shaming, instead of saying, “Todd, that was a bad thing to do to Fido. We don’t kick the dog.” Do you see the difference there?


Shame shields us in a number of different ways. It does protect us. It tries to make us be more perfect. When we’re more perfect, we think we make less mistakes, but hence, we continue to make mistakes because even if were perfect, we would raise the ante because we can never meet our goal of being perfect.


Typically, with shame, when we’ll move away and shrink and disappear, be invisible, you can’t see me. The other is moving forward, people pleasing, “It’s my fault. It’s my fault. I’ll do anything you want. Just like me, please. Whatever you want, I’ll take care of it.” Or you move against it, coming out swinging and being combative, and then feel guilty about that, which triggers back the shame.


I ask people about their first experience with shame. Typically, it’s between the ages of three and five, but not always. It’s usually during the formative years.


It’s particularly true if you look at Erik Erikson’s eight stages of man, who I really rely on. If you look at that, you’ll see that he takes us through all these developmental stages that we must go through and be successful at in order to get to the next stage.


Oftentimes, when I work with my patients and they see something happened between the ages of three and five, they’re able to justify what happened and know that, “It wasn’t that I’m bad. I just wasn’t taught. I didn’t learn. Now, I know and we can sort of move forward.”


After childhood, no one has to make us feel ashamed because we do it to ourselves because that little voice is in our head. We have to acknowledge that it occurred when we were young from people who…I’m not blaming parents, or coaches, or religious people, or peers, or whatever, and it’s also how we perceived it to be.


Todd heard he was bad for kicking the dog. Therefore, Todd has shame about that. I also hear from my people that, “If people knew the real me, they wouldn’t like me,” which means, they are in touch with who they are.


How does one recover from shame and unworthiness? It’s by breaking the cycle of perfectionism, which is your major setup to fail. Remember, I talked about, “I have to be perfect, I’m going to do this perfect.” Even if you do it perfect, which you won’t, but you think you do it well enough, you’re going to raise the ante because you’re never going to be good enough.


We have to learn to break the cycle of perfectionism, to stop people pleasing, and it means becoming vulnerable. Now, vulnerable doesn’t mean weak. It means courage. It means to show up with no guarantees. It means becoming authentic, which means cultivating the courage to be imperfect and to set ourselves up to be vulnerable.


Courageous is exercising the compassion we all are made of strength and struggles, all of us. No more comparing, no more judges. We’re all made up with the same. It’s a nurturing connection and sense of belonging that can only happen when we believe we’re enough.


Another question I’ll ask my patients, “When will you know you’re enough?” Oftentimes, the answer is, “When I feel worthy or when I’m perfect.” Goals you’re never ever going to be able to achieve. We have to learn to accept ourselves and love ourselves. It’s learning to love ourselves, accept ourselves, because until we do that, it’s hard to believe that someone else can love us unconditionally.


I leave you with this. I’m imperfect, I’m vulnerable, and sometimes, I’m afraid, but that doesn’t change the truth that I’m worthy of love and belonging. I hope you, too, will start the journey. Thank you.

Importance of Healthy Eating Habits for our Transgender Friends


Are you part of the transgender community or do you identify yourself as being transgender? Do you have a healthy relationship with food? With your body?


As part of the transgender community, you are actually at a higher risk for developing unhealthy habits like those of an eating disorder. This might partly be due to gender dysphoria, the feeling that your external experience might not match what is happening on the inside for you. As a result of this you might look to unhealthy eating habits as a means of modifying your body.


At Healthy Futures, we are here to remind you that YOU are really worth it – worth taking care of and worth accepting. If you feel like your relationship with food has become, or will become unhealthy, let us help you in your transition. Get started today and contact Healthy Futures at (480) 451-8500.



Dr. J.R. Evans:  Hi. My name is Dr. J.R. Evans. I’m a licensed psychologist here at Healthy Futures. I’ve had a really fortunate experience of being able to work with so many transgender individuals throughout their transitions, certainly. Also specifically, in working with them who might also have an eating disorder.


If you identify as being transgender, did you know you are at a higher risk for developing an eating disorder? I’m sure that actually makes a lot of sense for you because it’s about that gender dysphoria, that feeling of your external experience not matching what’s happening on the inside for you.


Imagine that you might do things to modify the body in certain ways that could actually be unhealthy. What we want to do here at Healthy Futures is actually help you in your transitional step to becoming who you are on the outside in a very safe and healthy way.


Remember, you’re really worth it. You’re worth taking care of yourself. You’re worth accepting who you are. You’re worth participating in this life that you have.


If you’re part of the transgender community or identify as being transgender, know that you have support here at Healthy Futures. If you feel like your relationship with food or with your body has become unhealthy, then let us help you. Let us help you understand why that is or how that is. Also, how to help you in your transition. Thank you.

Tips for a Happy Holiday Season When Struggling with Eating Disorders


For individuals and families struggling with eating disorders, the holidays can be a particularly difficult time of year. There are expectations, family members who say the wrong things, and celebrations that focus on a meal.  These triggers can make for a stressful holiday time. The good news is, you can learn to avoid the triggers and make your holidays happy. Here are some eating disorder treatment pointers to help.


For individuals:

  • Let go of perfectionistic ideas and behaviors. Free yourself from the shame of imperfection.
  • Communicate honestly. Be proactive by letting others know what you need, so they don’t have to assume.
  • Take time for yourself. Make your holiday time more than just the meal.  Play a family game.  Go for a walk.
  • Delegate. Don’t do everything yourself!
  • Listen to yourself. Pause and identify how you are really feeling.


For Families:

  • Be aware of the triggers.
  • Validate and support. A comment like this works well: “I don’t know what you’re going through, but I want you to know, I care, and I’m here for you.”
  • Don’t focus on food, weight, body, or body image. Diet talk after a holiday meal is a big trigger!
  • Don’t ask how they are doing. Better is to greet them with “It’s so good to see you. I’m glad you could make it over.”
  • Get support. The recovery process takes time. Educate yourself to help you cope.


Healthy Futures specializes in the treatment of eating disorders, but also offers other specialized counseling. Contact us today at (480) 451-8500.



Jeanne Phillips: Hello, my name is Jeanne Phillips. I’m a therapist and life coach as well as certified eating disorder specialist at Healthy Futures. On behalf of myself and my wonderful staff, I’m saying the holidays are here. Although it’s the most romanticized time of the year, it’s probably one of the most difficult times of the year for individuals with eating disorders and their families.


I would like to take a little bit of your time, and give you some pointers as to how to survive the holidays. For my patients out there who are struggling, I would say, “Let go of your perfectionistic ideas and behaviors.” That will only trigger your shame. Listen to your body, use your skills.


Let people know what you’re wanting. Be honest, be authentic in your communication. They can’t read your mind. I want you to know for sure that you’re going to be triggered by those people out there, who think they’re saying good things to you to help you get through this, but often times, you know what your triggers are. Use your skills, not to let that put you in a funk.


Take time for yourself, do things outside of just focusing on the meal. Before or after, play games with your family, go for a walk, watch a movie that’ll probably make you cry because that’s how Christmas movies always are, but that’s OK as well. Don’t focus on doing everything by yourself. Delegate, delegate, delegate.


I want you to think about this. Many of you out there feel like, “Oh, my gosh, I feel fat.” Fat’s not a feeling. What I would say to you, when that happens, I want you to think back and say, “No, I’m feeling fearful. I’m feeling anxious, and I’m feeling threatened.” I want you to breathe, and I want you to step back, and listen to your body.


For you folks out there who are supporting your loved ones, it’s really important that you be able to be aware of what their triggers are, not walk on eggshells, but at least be aware of what their triggers are.


This is a really hard one for individuals out there because they often times don’t understand the language of eating disorders and when a patient comes to them or a child or spouse, and talks about what they’re feeling, often times they can’t understand what that’s about because they’ve not experienced that.


I’d suggest to you, please, just validate and support. You can even say, “I don’t know what you’re going through, but I want you to know, I care, and I’m here for you.”


Family members, don’t focus on food, weight, body, or body image. Please don’t talk about how you’re going to go on a diet after the first of the year, very triggering. Besides diets don’t work, so why set yourself up as well.


It’s also really important when you address a patient or your loved one again that you ask them not how they’re doing, but rather, “It’s so good to see you. I’m glad you could make it over,” because saying, “How are you?” or “Oh, you’re looking great,” huge triggers, just a little beware there.


Lastly, what I would recommend is you find support for yourself because eating disorder recovery is a process. Your loved one didn’t get this way overnight and he or she is not going to get better overnight. Educate yourself, so you too can survive the recovery process. On behalf of myself and my dream team at Healthy Futures, we wish you a happy and healthy holiday.

Body Image Counseling in Scottsdale – Redefine What Beauty Is


What is the ideal beautiful body?  With the latest link between wafer thin models and eating disorders, it’s a question that deserves a moment of consideration. Millions of people are exposed to a barrage of skinny images of women on the cover of fashion magazines. Is it really the body image we should be striving for?


While many models are starving themselves to meet advertising expectations, many don’t believe that being underweight or anorexic is beautiful, and it certainly should not be idolized. Acting on this sentiment, Israel made a landmark decision to pass a law that requires their high fashion models to have a medical report showing that they are not malnourished. Models are now required to have a body mass index of at least 18.5.  On a 5-foot,8-inch tall model, that would be 122 pounds. All this is to promote a healthier body and beautiful ideal in their society.


Time will tell if our own government will take on our American advertising industry.  But, in the meantime, when you see those magazines, at the grocery store, ask yourself, “does the model look healthy?”  What is this publication selling: fashion, diets, exercise? If you would have to take your body to extreme levels to look like them, maybe that is not a natural or healthy look. Redefine what is beautiful and healthy for you.


Healthy Futures offers body image counseling, nutrition counseling, exercise consulting and other types of counseling for individuals, groups, couples as well as families. Contact us today for more information on our counseling.



Anchor:  “New at 10,” there’s been a lot of talk between the link between wafer thin models and eating disorders, but now one country is doing something about it.


In what’s being called a landmark decision, Israel has a new law requiring models to have a medical report showing that they’re not malnourished. They have to have a body mass index of at least 18.5, which is considered to be in the healthy range.


This is the first attempt by any government to tackle the fashion industry’s connection to eating disorders. The question here is, could something like this work here in the US? Would the US even consider something like that? William Pitts spoke with those in the fashion industry. Will?


William Pitts:  Surprisingly, everyone we talked to today thinks it’s a great idea. Arguably, the models here in Arizona aren’t the ones that are being targeted by this. It’s high fashion, where models are supposed to be clothes hangers.


Will:  Raise your hand if you look like this. No? You’re not alone. Lots of people want the model body, and that’s fine. It’s when you start starving yourself to look like this that there’s a problem.


Alexa Rizk:  I know that people look at these super models and they want to look like that and we understand that, but they need to understand that that’s not reality. These people are being airbrushed and there’s Photoshop.


Will:  The Ford Robert Black agency sends models around the world. Depending on the job, there can be pressure to be thin, maybe too thin.


Alexa:  They’re asked to lose weight and fit into the fashion clothes. The fashion part in New York is much more about looking like a hanger.


Will:  That’s why lawmakers in Israel passed a law banning skinny models. Too many malnourished women and others trying to be just like them.


Rachel Adato:  Beautiful is not underweight. Beautiful shouldn’t be anorexia.


Jeanne Phillips:  I think it’d be fabulous. I think we have to not promote dieting and fitness as being the beauty ideal.


Will:  Jeanne Phillips councils people with eating disorders. It’s more than just wanting to be thin but a constant barrage of skinny images doesn’t help.


Jeanne:  You go to the grocery store. What the latest diet is out there. How you can lose 30 pounds in 30 minutes. You too can look like this movie star or that movie star.


Will:  Agencies like Ford Robert Black say they have a bad rap. They’re just providing what advertisers want. That doesn’t mean they aren’t concerned about their models.


Alexa:  We said, “You don’t look good. It’s not looking well like that. We have to sit down with those people and have a serious conversation about your health.”


Will:  The magic number in Israel is a body mass index number of 18.5. For me at 6’3″, that’s only 150 pounds. For a woman about 5’8″, that’s 122 pounds. In the information center, William Pitts, “12 News.”

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