If you struggle with unhealthy behaviors, try a different technique. Imagine you have an itch. Feeling that itch now? Now, don’t scratch it! Instead, pause and think about it. Observe and describe the itch.
Emotions and behaviors go together. Feel fear, take flight. Feel angry, put up a fight. This works great to regulate our emotions when our emotions are justified. The cycle is complete and we come back to a balance. But, what do we do when we feel an emotion like fear, and there is no threat?
How’s it going to turn out? So many of us catastrophize our futures. We think it’s going to turn out terrible and let our minds go to the negative but, that’s our imagination talking.
Dialectical Behavior Therapy, also known as DBT, helps clients gain skills they can use in stressful moments. Often times we go let our minds play the “what if” game and it takes us to a negative place. “What if I don’t get the job?” And the stressful moment becomes worse just imagining the bad that would come of that.