Did you know your brain never stops thinking? It is true, however most people do not pay attention to their thoughts on a regular basis. With mindfulness, though, we learn to pay attention to our thoughts and our emotions as well as the way we interpret things.
Curiosity is truly a great thing. It is the perfect antidote to boredom. Look around you and there are things you can be curious about. If you see something that you want to know more about – great! Grab your computer or phone and research it.
If you struggle with unhealthy behaviors, try a different technique. Imagine you have an itch. Feeling that itch now? Now, don’t scratch it! Instead, pause and think about it. Observe and describe the itch.
Take a moment each day to listen to your body. Pause, take a deep breath and really listen. What is your body telling you? Do you feel tight? Do you feel the weight of stress on your shoulders? Do you feel rigid or stuck? Does it feel like you are almost holding your breath?
Emotions and behaviors go together. Feel fear, take flight. Feel angry, put up a fight. This works great to regulate our emotions when our emotions are justified. The cycle is complete and we come back to a balance. But, what do we do when we feel an emotion like fear, and there is no threat?
Are your emotions controlling you? Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) is a highly effective research-based treatment designed by Dr. Marsha Linehan to help those struggling with eating disorders, substance abuse, depression, anxiety, and trauma to cope with life’s stresses.
Many people ask themselves, “Why me? Why did this happen? Why am I like this?” But, when we answer these questions, we tap into our shame and guilt. This leads to negative thinking that we are a terrible person.
How’s it going to turn out? So many of us catastrophize our futures. We think it’s going to turn out terrible and let our minds go to the negative but, that’s our imagination talking.
Dialectical Behavior Therapy, also known as DBT, helps clients gain skills they can use in stressful moments. Often times we go let our minds play the “what if” game and it takes us to a negative place. “What if I don’t get the job?” And the stressful moment becomes worse just imagining the bad that would come of that.